Tuesday, December 15, 2009

[mompowergroup] Digest Number 256

Messages In This Digest (15 Messages)

1a.
Re: A Xmas dumping From: Carey D
1b.
Re: A Xmas dumping From: Frank
1c.
Re: A Xmas dumping From: Robin Myers
1d.
Re: A Xmas dumping From: Teresa Baltazar
1e.
Re: A Xmas dumping From: Carey D
1f.
Re: A Xmas dumping From: Guin VanConant
2a.
Re: violent choldren From: S R
2b.
Re: violent choldren From: Linda Roe
2c.
Re: violent choldren From: Margaret
3a.
Re: I just completed a novel! From: Linore Rose Burkard
4a.
Re: meditation From: renuka rajan
5a.
Re: A Xmas dumping/ what I did From: Bobbie Masterson
6.
Be on TV today From: Traci D
7a.
Re: The Greatest Gift in the World From: Mehri Sedaghat Shayegan
7b.
Re: The Greatest Gift in the World From: renuka rajan

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1a.

Re: A Xmas dumping

Posted by: "Carey D" carey.dill@gmail.com   careymomof4

Mon Dec 14, 2009 6:13 am (PST)



I would really pray and consider this a bunch before you do it. It will
affect your children's lives so much. Is he willing to seek counseling with
you? Could you go to counseling without him to help you know what to do? The
world will tell you to do what's best for you, but you will not be happy in
the long run. Prayer is the best source. Even if you are not legally
married, the book Power of a Praying Wife will have a huge impact on you and
on him.

I wish you the best,

Carey

On Sun, Dec 13, 2009 at 1:13 AM, Sonya <srjelks@earthlink.net> wrote:

>
>
> Is it bad timing to end a relationship with my children's father during
> this Xmas season? I think it's official...I've had enough of doing all of
> the work in raising our two kids! We are not married but have been living
> together for over 7 years and he just doesn't get the concept that if I do
> all the work regarding the girls that makes me a single parent! I've tried
> to get him to help out more around the house and do more activities with the
> kids, but it's still not consistent and that's not fair to me. I work and
> contribute more income to our household than he does since I make more money
> and he has kids from a previous marriage. I'm just fed up and I think I will
> be less frustrated with him if we did live separately.
>
>
>
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1b.

Re: A Xmas dumping

Posted by: "Frank" fschoch@ymail.com   fschoch@ymail.com

Mon Dec 14, 2009 6:17 am (PST)




Hello Sonya, my name is Karen. I don't think this is a bad time for you to get rid of him,if you were to wait till after the holidays you would only make yourself & your children un-happy. I too do all the work raising my 1 year old son,his father is a drunk & don't like to do any-thing to help. I wish I had your strength to get rid of him but I don't as of yet.so don't let anyone tell you that your wrong I think you are very brave for doing what you did. if you wanna talk here is my email fschoch@ymail.com feel free to chat @ me whenever you want

--- In mompowergroup@yahoogroups.com, "Sonya" <srjelks@...> wrote:
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> Is it bad timing to end a relationship with my children's father during this Xmas season? I think it's official...I've had enough of doing all of the work in raising our two kids! We are not married but have been living together for over 7 years and he just doesn't get the concept that if I do all the work regarding the girls that makes me a single parent! I've tried to get him to help out more around the house and do more activities with the kids, but it's still not consistent and that's not fair to me. I work and contribute more income to our household than he does since I make more money and he has kids from a previous marriage. I'm just fed up and I think I will be less frustrated with him if we did live separately.
>

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1c.

Re: A Xmas dumping

Posted by: "Robin Myers" robinm1chelle@yahoo.com   robinm1chelle

Mon Dec 14, 2009 6:17 am (PST)



I think I would suck it up for the holidays as long as there is not an abuse situation. My father and mother were unhapily married for years. I hated it they kept together for me till I was out of school. I wish they had done it sooner but they didn't they held semi strong for me all that time for me. I'm not saying you do that as that is not the right choice but i think after christmas maybe even after new years.. It could effect how your kid/s see chiristmas forever.

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From: Sonya <srjelks@earthlink.net>

Is it bad timing to end a relationship with my children's father during this Xmas season? I think it's official...I' ve had enough of doing all of the work in raising our two kids!

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1d.

Re: A Xmas dumping

Posted by: "Teresa Baltazar" terbaltazar@yahoo.com   terbaltazar

Mon Dec 14, 2009 6:20 am (PST)



He's just not into YOU...You need to focus on YOU and your little miracles and believe in YOURSELF, you have three reasons to work, you and your children...SAVE YOUR ENERGY FOR YOU AND YOURS...YOU ARE WORTH IT.  just read your responses over and over again, until you get it..

--- On Sun, 12/13/09, Diane Carman <dcgreetingcake@yahoo.com> wrote:

From: Diane Carman <dcgreetingcake@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: [mompowergroup] A Xmas dumping
To: mompowergroup@yahoogroups.com
Date: Sunday, December 13, 2009, 7:44 AM

 

Nope- get rid of him,  you will feel so much better...... ......... .....There is no sense of hanging on and feeling miserable all the time.  I'd let him go---------- --------- -even if it
is Christmas,  then he will know you mean business.... ......... ....
 
Good Luck
diane

--- On Sun, 12/13/09, Sonya <srjelks@earthlink. net> wrote:

Is it bad timing to end a relationship with my children's father during this Xmas season? I think it's official...I' ve had enough of doing all of the work in raising our two kids! We are not married but have been living together for over 7 years and he just doesn't get the concept that if I do all the work regarding the girls that makes me a single parent!

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1e.

Re: A Xmas dumping

Posted by: "Carey D" carey.dill@gmail.com   careymomof4

Mon Dec 14, 2009 6:45 am (PST)



One thing that I never thought about years ago that someone brought to my
attention when my brother-in-law was going through a divorce is that
alcoholism is a sickness. I thought for sure, leave the guy if he's a drunk.
Of course, you have to protect your kids and yourself, too, but you may want
to go to a support group for loved ones of alcoholics, such as Alanon
(spelling?). If alcoholism is in the picture, that completely changes a
person. I just never had looked at it as a sick person. Setting boundaries
is important, too - maybe a separation will have to happen to wake him up to
getting some help. He may need to hit rock bottom and you can't enable him
by being there and picking up the pieces. Just a thought on the alcohol
aspect of it.

Carey

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> --- On Sun, 12/13/09, Sonya <srjelks@earthlink. net<http://us.mc557.mail.yahoo.com/mc/compose?to=srjelks%40earthlink.net>>
> wrote:
>
> Is it bad timing to end a relationship with my children's father during
> this Xmas season? I think it's official...I' ve had enough of doing all of
> the work in raising our two kids! We are not married but have been living
> together for over 7 years and he just doesn't get the concept that if I do
> all the work regarding the girls that makes me a single parent!
>
>
>
>

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1f.

Re: A Xmas dumping

Posted by: "Guin VanConant" guinvc@yahoo.com   guinvc

Mon Dec 14, 2009 6:49 am (PST)



It is very bad timing especially if you only "'think' its official".  If you want out then by all means get out, but wait for after the holidays.  You have endured it this long whats a couple more weeks?  You want your children to always be happy this season, and if you leave or throw him out now that memory will forever be linked to Christmas.  My ex's dad left on Christmas Eve.  He hates everything about Christmas now.  If its over, its over, but wait till after the new year.

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2a.

Re: violent choldren

Posted by: "S R" dance4fun57@yahoo.com   dance4fun57

Mon Dec 14, 2009 6:14 am (PST)



Some interesting suggestions, thanks for sharing. I'd like to add one more. Start limiting the amount of sugar intake. You can't make this change all at once, but you can start adding things like fruit smoothies instead of soda (if it's not in the house, it's not a choice), water down fruit juices, have water at the table, use unsweetened hot chocolate and sweeten with organic honey or agave syrup. Much depends on the age of the child.

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From: P JETHWANI <jethwani@btinternet.com>
To: mompowergroup@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Wed, December 9, 2009 5:26:04 PM
Subject: [mompowergroup] violent choldren

Hi to all,
i just wanted to say, i feel deeply concerned about
some peoples problems with children, who may be violent. I would like to
share some solutions i have, they may not be a cure, but will definately
help. Cammomile tea is a powerful tranquilliser, non addictive, and with
the only side effect, is that they get drowsy, so if they need to stay awake,
you cannot give them this. Better give before bedtime, makes putting them
to bed really easy!,

My doctor told me, bad temper may be due to a blood
sugar condition known as hypoglycaemia, ask your family doctor about this.

The dieticians usually advise a whole
grain/wholefood diet for this.

color therapy also works, that is to describe it
briefly,
when in a calm or angry state, give your anger
a color, such as red, or grey or any, and imagine this color coming out of your
nostrils as you breath out. do this for as long as you need, until the
color you imagine changes.

this may sound goofy, but many people i know
have tried this, and really works. Parents do this too, and this
helps with mood swings, and temporarily helps with depression

I hope this all helps. Take
care,

Sangita


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2b.

Re: violent choldren

Posted by: "Linda Roe" icecream52765@yahoo.com   icecream52765

Mon Dec 14, 2009 6:14 am (PST)



I agree with you on the cammomile tea, I often drink it if I'm feeling restless and can't sleep. Linda in Iowa 

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From: P JETHWANI <jethwani@btinternet.com>
 
Hi to all,
i just wanted to say, i feel deeply concerned about some peoples problems with children, who may be violent.  I would like to share some solutions i have, they may not be a cure, but will definately help.  Cammomile tea is a powerful tranquilliser, non addictive, and with the only side effect, is that they get drowsy, so if they need to stay awake, you cannot give them this.  Better give before bedtime, makes putting them to bed really easy!,

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2c.

Re: violent choldren

Posted by: "Margaret" margaret47mm@yahoo.com   margaret47mm

Mon Dec 14, 2009 6:19 am (PST)



Red is a violent color. Pink and light blue are calming colors. (This was discovered in a prison for violent offenders.) Clothes, wall colors, curtains, toys, etc. should all be of neutral or calming colors with children that are hyperactive, have mental problems, are behavioral problem children, etc. I, myself, donot like too much red or dark colors at all for that matter. I have very few black items in my closet or my house. Just about everything I own or wear is of a neutral or light color. Most are natural colors like in nature. It works. Try it, moms and dads. You may be very surprised. I happen to be bipolar.
 

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Subject: [mompowergroup] violent choldren
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3a.

Re: I just completed a novel!

Posted by: "Linore Rose Burkard" linore@linoreroseburkard.com   linroseburkard

Mon Dec 14, 2009 6:15 am (PST)



Congratulations, Joanie. It feels great to finish that first
book, doesn't it? (Actually, it feels great to finish ANY book! lol)
But there's always something special about the first.
Enjoy your accomplishment!
Warmest blessings,

Linore

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4a.

Re: meditation

Posted by: "renuka rajan" bk_renukarajan@yahoo.com   bk_renukarajan

Mon Dec 14, 2009 6:17 am (PST)



Hai there,
thank you for the website on the meditation. But the one which i have been too does not make us to sit in the lotus position nor any difficulty in doing meditation. This is totally different from what you have given.
Well, individual choice and so all the best to whichever you all decide to go.
The main point, it should benefit yourselves
Best Rgds and Merry Xmas to you and team too.
renuka
malaysia

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From: askyourcoach <rebecca@insightsoutcoaching.com>

You might like this article...it has some resources that might not be local to you, but the info is good...Hope it helps!

http://www.examiner .com/examiner/ x-28949-Albany- Working-Moms- Examiner~ y2009m11d13- Meditation- 101

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5a.

Re: A Xmas dumping/ what I did

Posted by: "Bobbie Masterson" petitelove@gmail.com   bobbie_28

Mon Dec 14, 2009 6:18 am (PST)



Gonna input my personal experience on this.remember this is what I did, I am
not saying I recommend handling things this way.

About 2 weeks before xmas in 1999 I realized finally that it was time for a
major upheaval in my life. I knew my husband and I needed to separate. It
just wasn't working out. Among our many problems was the fact that we had a
10 year old and an 11 year old that were missing out on a lot of their
childhood (that I wanted for them) because their father just refused to be
active with them and his inactivity caused me to be just as inactive. So, I
began making plans. I did all the steps required to separate, including
finding a new place to live and getting a second job lined up. All through
the holiday I kept my decision to myself, trying to not let him or the boys
know and to give myself time to make sure that was I wanted to do. As I went
through all the things to be done I began to feel better and better about my
decision. By Feb 1st of 2000 I knew I was right, I broke the news to all 3
of them and the following day the boys and I left. I didn't leave a bunch of
room or time for discussion and false promises from my husband. I'd already
been through that.

The result: After 5 years apart, he came back. We have now been remarried
for 5 years and have a 20 month old son. He has become a much better dad and
we have both matured immensely.

You have to follow your heart.

I wanted my husband to be a dad to our boys but he wasn't able to. My boys
needs for growth outweigh my hopes that my husband would "wake up"

No matter what decision you make, I sincerely wish you the very best of luck
and true inner happiness.

Bobbie

From: mompowergroup@yahoogroups.com [mailto:mompowergroup@yahoogroups.com]
On Behalf Of Sonya
Sent: Sunday, December 13, 2009 2:14 AM
To: mompowergroup@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [mompowergroup] A Xmas dumping

Is it bad timing to end a relationship with my children's father during this
Xmas season? I think it's official...I've had enough of doing all of the
work in raising our two kids! We are not married but have been living
together for over 7 years and he just doesn't get the concept that if I do
all the work regarding the girls that makes me a single parent! I've tried
to get him to help out more around the house and do more activities with the
kids, but it's still not consistent and that's not fair to me. I work and
contribute more income to our household than he does since I make more money
and he has kids from a previous marriage. I'm just fed up and I think I will
be less frustrated with him if we did live separately.

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Be on TV today

Posted by: "Traci D" spurtlvs@cbnn.net   tlccleaning_ebay

Mon Dec 14, 2009 6:18 am (PST)



WooHoo - I will be on Waco Channel 10 news today promoting our new book The Momma Guide!! If you are in the area please watch I would love to get feedback!!!

Thanks Traci
www.TanYerHide.com

"The Road Goes On Forever And The Party Never Ends"

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7a.

Re: The Greatest Gift in the World

Posted by: "Mehri Sedaghat Shayegan" m_sedaghat_sh@yahoo.com   m_sedaghat_sh

Mon Dec 14, 2009 6:18 am (PST)



Hi renuka......I really like Maleysia where is great nature and kind people.....renuka u r maleysian or indian or chinies?  take care

--- On Sat, 12/12/09, renuka rajan <bk_renukarajan@yahoo.com> wrote:

From: renuka rajan <bk_renukarajan@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: [mompowergroup] The Greatest Gift in the World
To: mompowergroup@yahoogroups.com
Date: Saturday, December 12, 2009, 12:07 PM

 

Dear Frank,
That was a lovely expression of feelings from Dad. Welcome to the family of moms where we have some wonderful Dads expressing their deep love for family. May God Bless you and your family and may your son grow up to be a fine gentleman, who will make you proud one day.
best rgds
renuka malaysia

____________ _________ _________ __
From: Frank <fschoch@ymail. com>

feeling you for the first time,
excitement,happines s,joy,& love all combined.
the day you came, you made your daddy cry,
who knew the time would fly.

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Re: The Greatest Gift in the World

Posted by: "renuka rajan" bk_renukarajan@yahoo.com   bk_renukarajan

Mon Dec 14, 2009 6:21 am (PST)



Madam,
i am so sorry, i just saw this reply. Karen how old is your daughter? i have 4 kids from 25, 22, 18 and 16
Once again my humble apologies Maam.
Have a pleasant day
Wrmst Rgds,
renuka
malaysia

________________________________
From: Frank <fschoch@ymail.com>

Thank you for your comment but my nane is Karen, Frank is my husband who's name is on the site. I actually am the one who wrote the poem

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