I have been meaning to get to this response and haven't. I apologize. I have had my own circus here and I just plain forgot! But if you will send me your e-mail, I will send you my handouts that I use in teaching classes and for my own reference. I have many children with special needs, including those on the autism spectrum, bi-polar, psychosis, emotional and mental problems, etc. I might have something that would be of use to you, though I am sure you are just as well, if not more, well versed on things.
Regarding supplements—my son won't take them either, so they go into smoothies. I use the doTERRA trim shake for added nutrition, then use fruits that I know he likes and dump the supplements in there. Just open the capsules and add them (I apologize if someone already made this suggestion). Anything with texture is difficult for him, so that means tags on his shirts to foods that he doesn't like. I have found some things that really help, so please let me know what questions I can answer. My e-mail is doTERRASanAntonio@gmail.com
Regarding behaviors—and I'm sure you already know all this--my mantra is eliminate every battle you can and just fight the ones you can't. If the school can handle it—let them. If your child is swayed by peers (my son listens exactly to what girls are saying to him), then enlist some cute girls in the neighborhood who will say "I really like boys to shower every day for ten minutes and scrub under their arms." He literally sets the timer. If it isn't necessary to fight the battle—let it go. There are plenty that can be fought. Make a list of his triggers. Watch for them, then find ways to work around them—again—eliminate the battles. Put the oils on him or diffuse them before he wakes up (I use a timer from home depot set to go off). If he wants to move—that's sensory integration issues. Look into brain gym and one of the best investments we ever made was an indoor mini-tramp—the kind for exercising. He can jump to his heart's content. Weight vests—they are EXPENSIVE so I made my own. I went to the local BASS Pro shop and bought a fishing vest, then filled all the pockets with little fishing weights. When you need to launder, you can just take them out. For the noise—an iPod is terrific. You can put books on tape, soothing classical music (NO BEETHOVEN), or music that he wants to bounce to. Also foam ear plugs so he can be where others are without having to hear everything. Again—those weighted vests and blankets are tremendous helps for keeping him feeling grounded. (Weighted blankets are easy to make as well, let me know if you want directions on that.) Get him off of dairy and sugar—work towards a gluten free diet whenever possible. Diet is crucial. I know its super hard—but things like walking in circles, losing things, etc. are things you can totally let go. That's just him and some of them will disappear as his sensory issues get better. Or at least decrease. My son CANNOT stop touching things and pacing and he makes this noise that makes me want to scream sometimes (its a light saber noise that he goings around making hundreds of times per day waving an imaginary sword), but guess what? I just put the foam ear plugs in myself or an iPod and ignore. Another suggestion I have is find a room, large closet, etc. that you can make into his "safe" room. This room has blankets (lots of heavy ones), pillows, books that I don't care about, and other things that he really likes. This room has to be one you do not care about. And I taught my son to go there. I purchased an alarm that blows LOUD when he opens the door so that when I need a time out, he has a room that is safe and I don't care about to go to. He hated it at first, but now he doesn't mind. I just tell him I need a time out and so everyone is going to their "quiet space." Don't worry about the walls and if they get bashed in or the carpets stained or whatever. This is his room to go to when you need him to. And that can be when he is out of control, too. But we practiced for quite a while going to that room when he wasn't in trouble so that it wasn't a negative space.
Next—get yourself some support. Find someone who can come in and do the maintenance cleaning once a week or watch him for two hours so you can leave, sleep, or go hit something. Find other parents if you can't afford to bring someone in for a few hours. I'm sure you have read and read, but there are some really good books on sensory integration, the brain, etc. Anyway…just a few ideas beyond the oils that you have probably already tried.
As hard as this is—you got this. Once you hit the tail end of puberty, things start to settle down a little. I can tell you—My son was so difficult, that we weren't sure he would be able to live at home. In fact, at 11 the psychiatrist told us to institutionalize him. I don't listen to well to that kind of advice. I knew there weren't resources for him till he was 13 for residential type settings and I didn't think we were going to make it. But we did find things that work and we did find ways to work around things and he is 14 and in no danger of having to leave home. We still have our moments, but life is a whole lot different now. Please keep us in the loop on how you are doing and know we are cheering for you! You got this!
Charly
On Dec 4, 2013, at 9:33 PM, Carolyn L <bayareahayhackers@gmail.com> wrote:
Again the supplements even the Chewable and IQ Mega---would not work. He will NOT take them yet.But I will try the essential oil combos.Carolyn
On Wednesday, December 4, 2013 5:47:46 PM UTC-8, Shoppingmom wrote:I would suggest Intune on his spine. If he won't cooperate, I would strongly suggest diffusing some woodsy, grounding oil scents. Experiment to find which one/ones he responds well to. For example, you might try Vetiver and Ylang Ylang, or Vetiver and Frankincense. Roman Chamomile and Lime, or Sandalwood and lime. Any of the oils in Intune would be where I start. I would even try diffusing Balance and Frankincense.A2Z Chewables and IQ Mega would be a great start as well.I hope you find a combo that works. Please keep us posted on what you try and the results!--
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